Deciding if he's the one, if he is compatible with you and his personality compliments yours before you commit to him might be a difficult decision.
It's simple to get confused because there are so many rules and games to play. When someone you really liked "left you on read," your thoughts could start to race because you're obsessively analysing what their final few messages imply.
When there are so many choices on matchmaking apps, how can you tell if someone is the right one for you? When should you finally make a decision? Let's look at it.
Commitment is definitely a huge step and you have to be 100% sure with your decision now to not regret later.
1. He listens to you
An essential component of a relationship is listening. Not only listening, but trying to understand.
If you feel he puts all his thoughts on you and doesn't care about your opinions, it's a sign when you need to rethink about having him as a life long partner. Communication happens two ways, you do need someone to be there to listen to you too. Both of you need to solve the matters together instead of just him speaking and you saying "sorry".
Whereas, if he listens and tries to understand all that you say, then my friend he's the right one! He wants to be with you. Remember, you both are a team and are not against each other. So, stop fighting over who wins or loses. Having solved all the fights together, is a win-win for both of you.
2. He doesn't try to change you
Do you sometimes feel that he's pressuring you again and again to be someone that you're not or to do something that you really cannot. If this is something that is bothering you so much, you should be the one confronting him instead of changing yourself. There's a difference between helping you change some of your bad habits and changing you as a person, your personality is a different thing. We're talking about personality here.
He's the right one if he loves you for who you are, wants to see you happy, and doesn't want you to be someone you're not.
3. Consider how you feel around him
Considering how you feel around him is important as you don't want to spend the rest of your life not being happy.
Ask yourself. How do you feel in his presence? Are you happy? Do you want to be with him when you are good as well as bad times? Do you feel lonely around him? Do you feel loved? Do you want to spend all your life with him?
There you go. You now know whether you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
4. Your happiness matters to him
Being happy is the ultimate goal, isn't it? If he makes you happy and tries to do his best to make you feel loved and happy then he's the right one. Both of you need to give your 100% to make each other happy. It's generally said that a relationship should be 50-50. But , I say, it should be a 100-100 relationship. Both of you try to give your 100% at all times.
5. You like to be with him in good as well as bad times
Think about it, if he's going to be your life partner, you have to be sure that he's the one that you like to be around when you're low as well as in those good moods. You like to share your wins with him as well as the losses. I'm pretty sure everyone goes through different phases in their lives. No one is going to be happy 24*7. To have a partner with whom you would love to be with in all your phases is the right one. It's even important that they love you no matter what, and likes to be with you in all your phases of life.
6. He motivates you to always do better
If he is always there to talk you through your bad days and motivate you to do better in work as well as in your personal life, he might be the one. If he's your biggest cheerleader and helps you get going to achieve all your goals even if that means giving more time to work, and sacrificing some time with him. He's the one!
7. Discuss about long term goals
Once you decide that you want to spend the rest of your life together, you need to discuss finances and savings. Let him know how you like it and listen to him. Come at a mutual decision. Discuss what you want out of your relationship, how you want to take things ahead. Don't run around the bush, talk to the point and let him know that you're sure about it.
If you were able to tick mark all the above points he is definitely The Right One. Wishing you a happily ever after.
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